The desire to be as present as possible in a child’s daily life is “natural” for parents of both sexes. It’s how we interpret and act on that desire, not the desire itself, that creates the “conflict,” along with the circumstances of life — illness, kindergarten, divorce, autism, middle school — that change the pressures. Those issues often still affect women disproportionately, but there’s a whole lot more than breast-feeding at the root of that, and the real solutions are best found in societal and corporate structures that make it easier for men and women both to have more flexibility within work, and more off- and on-ramps in their careers. As for the impact of the minutiae of “natural” parenting? There’s a whole lot of a family’s life to be lived after the last diaper — cloth or not— has been changed.